Well, because this is the venting section of the forum... I vented. That was my thought at the time. I do not expect anything from anyone who has not made me a promise. He didnt make me a promise, therefore I didnt expect anything from him. I also didn't need to be "schooled" on his age or maturity level because they are not correlated. Maturity doesn't come with age, rather it is the result of experiences and personal development. There are 34 year old men who are still little boys. Also, if you read my post again, I stated that he knows the gifts that he possess and what he wants to do with them, but is too lazy to make a move. That is what my vent was about.. laziness.
To say he's only 21 is giving him an excuse to keep his mind in poverty. At 21, my little brother was working two jobs and going to university full time. he wasn't chasing pussy, he was in a long term relationship, getting educated and paid all at the same time. manhood/womanhood doesn't wait for an age and dick/pussy doesnt make you a man/woman.
Now, never did I say I wanted to be with him. I was simply pointing out the mentality of some young men; how a quick nut is more important than investing in his future. We'd only been talking two days and he wanted to talk more about my bedroom skills than he did about original ideas. It doesn't matter if you're an 18 year old or 42 year old female, who wants that? Who wants somebody more worried about what's between her legs than what ways he can prosper??? No matter what age he is...... and if he keeps getting away with it.... then he's going to think it's okay that he doesn't have to work or produce anything to get what he desires. hence one of the reasons we have so many baby momma's and not nearly as many wives within ourselves because all he had to do was start a conversation about sex.
You say "Being 21 isn't quite the age in which a male jumps the fence from boyhood to manhood. I'm not quite amazed by your scenario, but more amazed at your reaction. Everyone has a gift, unfortunately we aren't naturally born with the knowledge of our gifts, but yet have to "find" and then "nurture" them. Sometimes the gap between "finding" and "nurturing" a gift can be extensive. Some people use their gift/s as a pastime; something they enjoy doing, like singing, drawing, writing, etc. Some people turns their gift/s into their passions, which in turn becomes their purpose. Some people have gifts and never use them."
He's in his last year of school for his gifts so he is nurturing them properly and with good training. HE IS JUST LAZY...
"At the same time I would definitely keep complementing him on his talent/gifts...maybe he will start to notice this for himself."
I do not need to do this because he is well aware of what he has...... HE IS JUST LAZY!
HE TOLD ME HE WAS INTELLIGENT AND COULD BUILD ROBOTS
HE TOLD ME ABOUT HIS FRIENDS THAT CAN MAKE COMPUTER SOFTWARE
HE TOLD ME HIS DREAMS AND THAT HE WAS JUST TOO LAZY TO WORK AT THEM
which means he is well aware of himself.....
HE IS JUST LAZY....
did you even read the post??
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I'm just curious? 
He at least admitted to being lazy, but I can't do lazy. I know sometimes I need a break too, but THIS MF is sitting on a GOLDMINE! "I know there's a lot I can do with it" he said. "I'm just lazy. I would actually have to work with them." Them being his software engineer buddies. Then he had the nerve to say "enough about this nerdy stuff, I bet you are good in bed?" 
HOLD UP NIGGA! 
